In every generations, issues regarding parent and child relationship has been a dilemma for most of us. The problem, which is the strengthening of the parent-child relationship, has been always encountered by anyone in line with the changes in our fast-growing environment. Everyone knows that this is essential for the parent as well as with the child. For if any of them doesn’t have a strong hold on each other, an edgy and thick barrier will be built among them. As my colleagues always says to me, “creating a strong bond between you and your child is like feeding your pet – the more food your give, the greater the chance it will obey you.”. So to avoid awkward moments during meals or the like, these tips shown below may help you to overcome this dilemma:
1. Loosen up. You don’t have to be strict all the time. Your children also has the tendency to feel overprotected or if it worsen, they feel like they’re caged like Rapunzel. Knowing the limit is the keyword.
2. Respect. If you want to be respected, you also have to do the same on your child. Respect is something that is earned, not innate. Also, you don’t have to be disappointed if your child did not become the person whom you want him to be. You may also think that once your child was born, he or she is the most perfect human being in the world. Soon, you will realize that there is no perfect, for he may have some flaws; and soon enough, you will be able to accept him for who he is. Of course, he is your child.
3. Work together. When I say work together, the effort should come from both of you. You have to be there when he needs you the most, and make him feel that as your own child, he should do the same to you. To be able for him to know you better, have a little talk with him. Tell him one of your unforgettable childhood memories, some that may make him relate into. Reaching out should come from both of you, since it is a two-way process.
4. Believe and trust. Having faith on your child makes him feel the responsibility of doing the right things. Knowing that someone is believing and trusting you is a huge self-esteem booster. Another, when either of you and your child has been explaining a problem, be factual and objective. Avoid preaching, blaming, criticizing, or judging (the child or the parent).
5. Relationship building requires us to think not only about what we want parents to do, but also to consider the role we play in the potential partnership. It requires us to take an honest look at how our thoughts and actions could be causing us to fall short of the goals of strong parent involvement and engagement.
So after giving those simple tips, I hope it would help you to fill in the gaps, if there’s any; and bring your child and your self elf into a much closer bond without limitations, without inhibitions, and without holding back.